Month: September 2019

عيادة الجمعة …..التربية الغلط #ما_ترجعوش_تزعلوا !! ..

– لما عيالكم يقفلوا علي نفسهم الاوضه بالساعات وميحبوش القعده معاكم بسبب الانتقاد والكلام اللي زي السم اللي بتوجهوه ليهم ..

– لما يكبروا و يكرهوا كلمة ” إن شاء الله ” .. لأن كُل وعد توعدوه تقولوا إن شاء الله و مايحصلش !

– لما شخصياتهم تبقي ضعيفه وما يبقاش عندهم ثقه في نفسهم لانكم ما بتديهومش فرصه يعبروا عن اللي جواهم ودايمًا تستغبوهم .

– لما يكرهوا الصلاه و المذاكره ! لأن من أقل غلطه يغلطوها تسألوهم صليت إيه النهارده ؟! ذاكرت ولا لاء ؟ كأن الصلاه والمذاكره عقاب .

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– لما يكرهوا الجواز بسبب المشاكل اللي مبتخلصش وبتولع علي اتفه الاسباب .

– لما يكرهوا النقاش معاكم لانكم بتقللوا من اراءهم سواء في السياسه او الحياه عامةً .

– لما كل يوم قبل نومهم يعاتبوكم وهما في اوضهم في سرهم و قد إيه في فجوه بينكم بسبب قلة التفاهُم والاحتواء .

– لما يفشلوا في الكليه اللي اخترتوهالهم بسبب تدخلكم في مستقبلهم و منعهم عن حلمهم المؤمنين بيهم !!

– لما يكرهوا السفر معاكم في مصيف مثلاً .. لأنكم بتتعصبو عليهم وممكن تقلبوا الفُسحه غَم !

– لما يحبوا اكل المطاعم لأنكم بترفضوا تعملوا طرق جديده في نفس الاصناف الموجوده من اكل البيت !

– لما عيالكم يكرهوا بعض لأنكم بتفرقوا في المعامله بينهم و تميزوا حد عن التاني .. وتتحاسبوا يوم القيامه بجريمة الظُلم . !!

– متزعلوش لما تلاقوا ابنكم أو بنتكم كاتبين علي الفيس ” كل لما أتمناه حُضن يحتويني ” لأنكم مجربتوش تحضنوهم حتي ولو بكلمه حلوه .

– لما يطلعوا مكلكعين من جوا وتفيكريهم محدود بسبب كلمة ” انا وانا قدك كنت بجيب لبس كذا .. بصرف كذا .. ” ! رغم ان سيدنا علي قال : لا تربوا أولادكم علي أخلاق زمنكم فان لهم زمنًا غير زمنكم !!

– متزعلوش قوي لما بنتك تبقي تعيسه ف حياتها الزوجيه بسبب عريس فرضتوه عليها مع ان حقها الشرعي تتجوز اللي يعجبها حتي ولو بعد ١٠٠ سنه .

– متستغربوش لما تلاقو بناتكم مش طايقين الرجالة بسبب تصرفاتكم سوا وخناقات وقرف وطول عمرهم شايفيزكن يا رجالة بتعاملو الستات او البنات بأبشع الطرق.

– عمر طويل لما تقابلوا وجه كريم وعيالكم ميحنوش للقائكم لأنكم زي الطوق علي رقابيهم و بفراقكم اتنفسوا .. بقوا أحرار !

في مثل بيقول .. ” يا كبار البيت اتوصوا بصغارُه بكُره صغارُه يبقوا كبارُه ! “

عيادة الجمعة…الشخصية الإدمانية أو اضطراب الشخصية ما قبل الادمان ..

الإدمان ليس وليد اللحظة التى يتعاطى فيها مريض الإدمان للمخدر لأول مرة ،بل يقف وراء تلك اللحظة العديد من العوامل والمتغيرات،التى تسهم فى إستمراريتة فى التعاطى إلى أن يصل إلى مرحلة الإدمان، وهناك العديد من المؤشرات التى تظهر أن الإدمان لا يبدأ فى اللحظة التى يقبل فيها المدمن على تعاطى المخدر، من أهمها أن هناك العديد من الأفراد قد تعاطوا المخدرات من قبل ولكنهم لم يدمنوها، وهناك من تعاطى لأول مرة ثم استمر فى التعاطى إلى أن وصل إلى مرحلة الإدمان ، والسؤال المهم هنا..

( ما العامل الرئيسى الذى يجعل شخصا يجرب المخدرات لأول مرة ثم يرفض الاستمرار فى تعاطيها؟)، ومن جانب آخر نجد شخصا آخر يجرب تعاطى المخدر، ولكن يجد لديه رغبة فى الاستمرار فى التعاطى حتى الوصول إلى مرحلة الإدمان؟

وعلى الرغم من أن كلا الشخصين شعرا بنفس المتعة والنشوة والسعادة التى يمنحها المخدر لكليهما، إلا أن الشخص الذى استمر فى التعاطي تحول إلى مريض بالإدمان بالفعل ،بينما الشخص الأخر لم يتحول إلى مريض بالإدمان، ومن هذا المنطلق نرى أن هذا الشخص الذى تحول إلى مريض بالإدمان بالفعل هو بالأساس شخص يملك من الاستعداد النفسى ما يجعله مريضا دون غيره، وأن هذا الاستعداد ناتج عن قصور أساسى فى بناء شخصيته، بمعنى أن بناء شخصيته لم يكتمل بالشكل الذى يجعله يستطيع أن يتمتع بمستوى التوافق النفسى الذى يتمتع به الأسوياء، ومع بداية التعاطى يعمل المخدر على إكمال ذلك الجزء الناقص فى شخصيته من خلال منحه الشعور بالثقة ،أو تغلبه على مشاعر الإحساس بالدونية وتعويضه عن كل ما يفتقده المريض من مهارات يرى أنها تنقصه، إذن فإن الأصل فى الإدمان ليس مجرد إحساس المريض بالنشوة والسعادة التى يجلبها له المخدر ولكنها حالة الاعتمادية على المخدر

، والتى أشبه ما تكون علاقة تكميلية يقوم فيها المخدر بدور تكميلى لإرساء دعائم البناء النفسى الهش لمريض الإدمان .

ومما سبق يتضح أن مريض الإدمان قبل إدمانه كان يعانى من قصور فى بناء شخصيته الأمر الذى يجعله يبحث عما يعوض له هذا القصور، وعندما يجرب المخدر لأول مرة فهو يكون أشبه بالتائه الذى وجد ضالته فيجد فى المخدر الحل السحرى لكل ما يفتقده ويرغب فى تحقيقه ،لذلك فقد أطلق تشبيها لعلاقة المريض بالمخدر، وكأنها أشبه (برحلة البحث عن الذات) ،بمعنى أن مريض الإدمان لا يحب المخدر لأنه يمنحه شعورا بالمتعة والنشوة والسعادة فقط ، ولكنه يبحث بالأساس عن ما يقوم به المخدر من تعويض القصور الذى يعانى منه ،حيث يمنحه المخدر شعورا قويا بالثقة ، والقدرة على التواصل بمهارة مع كل من حوله، وما يقدمه المخدر من حلول سحرية فى القضاء على مشاعر الخجل الاجتماعي والإحساس بالدونية، ومن هنا فإن المريض فى رحلة البحث عن ذاته يجد فى المخدر علاجا للاضطراب الذى يعانيه فى شخصيته تحقيقا للذات التى كان يرغب فيها، أو بتعبير آخر تحقيق الذات التى كان يفتقدها، فتتحول العلاقة بينه وبين المخدر من علاقة شخص بمادة إدمانية تشعره بالمتعة والنشوة إلى علاقة من نوع آخر، وهى العلاقة (الاعتمادية ) ، حيث يعتمد على المخدر فى التواصل مع الآخرين ، وفى إدارة شئون حياته للدرجة التى يصل فيها إلى شعوره بان حياته قد تتعطل نهائيا فى حالة عدم تعاطيه لجرعته المعتادة يوميا، ويشعر أنه بدون المخدر سوف يصبح غير قادر على إدارة شئون حياته ، كما أنه يشعر بأنه غير قادر على القيام بالمهام المنوط له القيام بها للحد الذى يصل إلى شعور المريض بأنه لا يشعر بأنه شخص طبيعي، إلا إذا تعاطى المخدر، وأنه فى حال إذا لم يتعاطَ المخدر فإنه يشعر بأن هناك شيئا ما ينقصه ،بل أن حياته يمكن أن تتوقف،وفى النهاية يتحول ما يعانيه المريض إلى ما يسمى بالشخصية الإدمانية.

5 Tips for Living With ‘High-Functioning’ Bipolar Disorder

The following lessons are ones I have learned since I began my journey towards a better life. I don’t pretend any of them are easy and I know none of them will bring instant gratification, but they are things that have helped me so far and with any luck, they may help someone else as well.

1. Surrender.

First, ask for help. Second, take it. Do the opposite of what your brain tells you — it’s not your friend right now and it wants to keep you isolated. Reach out and let people know you’re not OK. If you can gain professional guidance and support, surrender to it. Following your own plan hasn’t saved you so far, so why not let someone else have a go?

2. Fight like hell.

Now that you have the support you need, fight. You can’t enter this half-assed. You’re either in or you’re out. This is your life you’re battling for and some days it will bring you to your knees with exhaustion. Focus on your goals and don’t give up. You can beat this.

3. Be patient and forgive.

Everyone slips up now and again. The most important thing is to not let it stop you. Don’t lay blame and don’t lay down and let it swallow you. What is past is past and what is in the future, is still to come. Live in the now and know you can only do what you can. No more, no less. You are worth forgiveness and another chance.

4. Simplify.

Declutter your life. Remove the extraneous elements you accumulated in your effort to obtain “normalcy.” Life will never be “normal.” At least not in the neatly pre-packaged, romanticized version you may have been chasing. True “normal” is what you build, not what you buy. Let go of the things you assume make you a “real person” when they only serve to create strain and stress. Disconnect from those who are toxic in your life, present only to introduce drama and conflict you neither need nor deserve. Remove the triggers that sabotage your efforts to achieve peace.

5. Choose, not allow.

Start making choices. Do something with your life and don’t wait for it to do things to you. Each time you engage in something you wouldn’t choose for yourself, you can accumulate resentment. You can learn to feel helpless and to hate the world. You can learn to hate yourself. You’re not weak and you’re not helpless. Figure out what matters to you, what makes your life matter and pursue it. Live for yourself and find happiness in the space you want to be. You can’t control the world but you can control how you place yourself in it.

Source:

https://themighty.com/2017/07/high-functioning-bipolar-disorder-tips/?utm_source=engagement_bar&utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=story_page.engagement_bar/

Please I Want You to Want to Live

I Want You to Want to Live

The rate of suicide is on the rise worldwide in all age categories. It affects all ethnicities, cultures and religions.

It is bias-free.

It is a last resort, a desperate attempt to quell the never-ending and relentless pain that monopolizes your mind. It has become the only feasible way to rid yourself of the burdensome weight that has dragged you to this level of despair.

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That is how I’ve felt anyway, the countless number of times I have and do fall into the darkness. And because I can empathize, take a minute to read this letter to you.

Dear You.

If you are reading this there is a small piece of you that wants to hold on.

I am so proud of you for reaching out, even if you have done so without words. You have kindly given me a few minutes of your time, and I do appreciate that.

I want you to live.

I want you to want to live.

I won’t feed you some bullshit like it’s all going to be OK with time because it may not be, and it may not turn out as you wish, but you will never know if you don’t stick around to find out.

I will instead tell you I am here with you. Let’s take this a minute at a time.

I will remind you that although I don’t know what tomorrow will bring, I will be by your side to find out.

You are so important.

I won’t make you feel selfish by telling you to stick around for your family or friends, because I know you feel that leaving would not only end your burden, but theirs as well.

I will tell you someone loves you despite how you feel inside. I will remind you that you are not and never will be a burden. You may not see or even hear it, but someone out there values your life; I value your life. I don’t know you, but I do care because I can empathize with your pain; I feel it myself.

You are incredibly strong.

I won’t ever tell you that you are being dramatic and don’t really want to die.

I will instead be here to listen and validate your feelings because they are as significant as you are.

I am so proud of you for still staying with me.

I won’t ever tell you things could be worse or that other people have it worse than you and don’t want to die.

I will acknowledge your despair and lack of hope. I will never compare your pain to another’s. It would be like observing two gunshot wounds, one in the chest and one in the leg. Yes, it is worse to get shot in the chest, but it does not take away the pain of being shot in the leg.

You are beautiful.

I won’t use the old adage “suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.”

I will say that your problems might not be temporary, but I will be with you and help you to find a coping mechanism that works for you. I will tell you suicide is simply not a solution.

I won’t shove the ideas of therapy or medication down your throat as that will not help at the moment.

I will ask some of the most important words of all: How can I help?”

I will provide you with a suicide hotline (1-800-273-8255 or text the word “start” to 741-741.)

You are a warrior.

Your track record of making it through trauma, heartbreak and devastation is 100 percent. Despite the rocks life has thrown at you, you have emerged with scars and grit. You have proven wrong those who expected you not to make it, those who gave up on you long before you gave up on yourself.

You are amazing.

You have a purpose in this life, whether you realize it at this point or not. Your book has so many chapters to be written. You are needed, your voice and your story are essential for someone, be it a stranger or a friend.

You are your own hero. You have done what you think you cannot do. You have looked death in the face, stared it down and walked away having won another battle in your war.

If you are still reading this, I am incredibly proud of you for stopping what you were doing and giving me a few moments of your precious time. Just reading this is the beginning… you have extended your arm, you just have to unclench your fist. I implore you to keep this conversation going, be it with a hotline, a friend or family member, or even me (@onelastkick71).

You have taken the first step; let’s make it to the second together.

You are loved.

23 people Explain What It’s Like to Have Suicidal Thoughts When You’re Not Suicidal

source: https://themighty.com/2017/04/suicidal-thoughts-not-suicidal/?utm_source=engagement_bar&utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=story_page.engagement_bar/

1. “It’s like randomly imagining what life around you would be like if you didn’t exist anymore. It’s like having random daydreams about dying in different ways. It’s not always looking both ways when you cross the street, not because you want to die, but because you don’t not want to die… it’s having this numbing ache inside you don’t know how to mute.” 

2. “Sometimes my anxiety causes me to feel trapped and overwhelmed. Thoughts of my death (not necessarily suicide) are a fantasy of escape. And escape where you don’t feel guilty, scared or pressured anymore.” 

3. “I have intrusive thoughts about suicide, even when my moods are relatively stable. I sometimes have images and thoughts popping up. These thoughts feel obsessive some days. I am grateful I don’t actually feel like doing any such thing that would end my life.”

4. “I once told my therapist I never pictured myself as an old person. That I didn’t think I’d ever make it there. Some days I just want to disappear. To escape the voices in my head telling me how awful I am, how I’m such a burden to everyone, how fat I am, etc. The cacophony is enough to make you want to rip your brain out of your head.” 

5. “The best way I’ve found to describe it is that suicidal *thoughts* can be fleeting. In fact, I’ve met many people who have never been suicidal who have wondered what it might be like. The problem for those of us who have been suicidal is that the *thought* of suicide brings up all those old emotions, sort of like PTSD. Even writing this response has made my thoughts turn to — “Well, I *could* just go ahead and do it…” But right now, I’m not suicidal, and I actually am in a pretty good place with regard to my mental health. So why does this voice go on in the back of my mind? Because I’m sick, y’all.”

6. “Think of it like getting a cold. You can drink orange juice and take vitamins and take care of yourself as much as you possibly can, and you might be in the healthiest shape of your life. And then you start sneezing, and your nose starts running. You never know when or where it’s going to happen; it just does, and there’s often little you can do to prevent it. So you just keep moving on, accepting it’s a part of you or that it’s simply not something you can control. That’s all we can do.”

7. “It’s less about killing myself and more about ceasing to exist. I want the people around me to not be bothered by my incompetence, insecurities and the trouble I feel I cause them. Sometimes it’s just a call for momentary relief.”

8. “They’re fleeting but frequent thoughts that attack you even when you feel completely fine. Sorta like an annoying fly buzzing around you constantly.”

9. “I am so overwhelmed and stressed out by what seems like everything. The world is just crashing down on me. I just want the stress to be gone. My chest just aches like it’s getting crushed. My mind is like having 100+ internet tabs open and one of them has an ad that is playing music so you gotta rush to find it to make the ad stop, but all you find is more random tabs with no ad (if that makes any sense). My mind is all over the place, and all I want to happen is for it to stop. Freeze. Be calm. Don’t want to die. That’s too permanent. To be able to pause or disappear away from everything though is a nice thought.”

10. “I often describe it as being passively suicidal. I wake up in the morning and wish I hadn’t, I close my eyes at night hoping it’ll be the last time .. It’s not like I want to end my life, like when I’m actively suicidal, but I don’t want to live. It’s lonely and it’s scary and something that goes through my head every single day.”

11. “It’s overwhelming. You know you don’t want to kill yourself, but the thoughts just won’t leave your head. I battle this every single day of my life. I have everything to live for yet the thoughts don’t want to move from my brain. It’s like being trapped in a brain you’re unfamiliar with… it’s like walking into a room full of family and only seeing complete strangers.”

12. “It’s almost like this nagging feeling or voice. You’re out living life. The sun is shining, your favorite song is playing but something feels off. You suddenly get a brief flash of ‘What if’ and it passes so quickly you don’t really process it. Until the music stops. Then it comes again. And lingers. Kind of like when your phone keeps going off and distracting you. Until eventually you have to answer it. (Or in this case, dwell on the thought.)”

13. “Being angry with hope. Being frustrated with faith. Resenting the reasons to stay alive… Self-hate. Self-hate. Self-hate. People hate. People hate. People hate. Guilt. Guilt. Guilt. Futility, oh my god, the overwhelming futility. Knowing it’s not futile. Arguing with yourself over whether or not it is. Not wanting to die but not wanting to feel worthless any more. Not wanting to die but not wanting that tight aching physical pain in the heart/stomach/head any more. Not wanting to die but not wanting to be living in fear forever…. What if I get ill and die now because I’ve wished myself dead? (I don’t want to die, I don’t want to die, please don’t let me die!)”

14. “It’s like going into an art room full of beautiful paintings, and then the lights turn off and written in invisible ink everywhere are these dark thoughts… then as soon as the lights come back on you see just beautiful paintings — although you know hidden somewhere are these suicidal thoughts and you’re just waiting until they resurface.”

15. “Some of my worst points was the ‘other me’ in my head shouting at me, feeling like it was attacking my brain physically…  Another version of this would be like it is trying to slyly coax me into doing this things, like the snake in ‘The Jungle Book.’”

16. “It’s not really the thought, ‘I want to kill myself,’ but more, ‘I don’t care if I die.’ Situations that most people would have fear in don’t always bother me. Or I imagine things happening that would cause death. But these are just passive thoughts, they may always be there, but I am learning to fight them.”

17. “I have a lot of intrusive thoughts, regardless of how stable my mental health is. It’s like everything will be OK, and I’ll be happy and content or at the very least, I’ll be feeling relatively neutral, and all of a sudden my brain will say something like, ‘Just swerve into the concrete barrier,’ or, ‘You could jump off these stairs right now.’ In these moments, I don’t want to kill myself, but the thought of doing so is always there. It’s like a tiny switch in my brain — it isn’t triggered all the way so as to cause a suicidal crisis, but it’s just nudged a little bit so that it’s almost on.”

18. “Suicidal thoughts are a daily occurrence for me, even if I’m not totally low or really wanting to die… They’re passive thoughts, but they’re always there even when I’m having a good day.”

19. “It’s intrusive thoughts that make no sense to you, but they refuse to leave. It’s a feeling that sweeps across your mind like a fog. An evil inner self-voice that taps you on the shoulder and whispers in your ear on your darkest days. It’s pondering different ways and scenarios you could do it, but never actually planning it. Just because I don’t want to actually go through with killing myself doesn’t mean my mental health isn’t affected by these intrusive thoughts that insist I would be better off if I did. I know how much it would hurt those I love, and all I want is the thoughts of wanting to harm or end myself to be gone. When you struggle with mental illness, anxiety, depression etc., sometimes thoughts invade your mind without even wanting them.”

20. “It’s like being behind a one-way mirror. You can see the world around you going about their daily lives, but you aren’t present in it. You’re merely a spectator. And no one even notices you because all they see is their reflection. All they see (care about) is themselves and the world around them. They never see you, and you feel they don’t care about you. And then your mind begins to wonder. Is my existence significant? I’m already living like I don’t exist, so why should I continue living? It’s one of the most frustrating feelings because you want to be on the other side of the mirror. You want people to notice and to care. It’s this dull aching in your heart that never goes away and you just want it to stop.”

21. “One of my favorite quotes about this: ‘Depression is the inability to construct a future.’ That’s completely true. Even if you aren’t actively looking to end your life, you can’t imagine going on. Every day you feel like it’s too much and that you don’t belong, hoping that some outside force might just end it for you.” — Stacy T.

22. “For me, it’s like the annoying devil character on your shoulder… like you are fine but this dark annoying thing keeps whispering into your ear these awful thoughts. And sometimes it’s not thoughts, it’s just images. Like I will be just going about my day and I will get these random suicidal images in my head. Almost like someone mis-filed a photo in your daily slideshow.”

23. “It’s a spectrum. Suicidal thoughts aren’t always actively planning your death. Sometimes, it’s a random, uncontrollable thought that you’d rather not be alive. Sometimes it’s an impulse to do something self-destructive. Sometimes it’s ‘playing’ with the idea while telling yourself you’re not serious about it. ‘Suicidal thoughts’ encompasses a wide range of thoughts and ideas.”

Children use those phrases to say they are anxious

Source: https://themighty.com/2017/12/anxiety-as-a-child-kid-signs-phrases-code-words-anxious/

As children, it can often be difficult to effectively communicate what we’re feeling. We might think whatever’s going on in our head is “normal,” so asking for help never even crosses our minds. Or maybe because we didn’t quite understand what was going on, we did the best we could in those moments of struggle to “reach out” in our own little ways.

Not until we’re older and looking back do we realize we’ve probably been trying to combat our anxiety for quite some time now, and that people — ourselves included — just didn’t really know what the “signs” were. That is why we asked our Mighty mental health community to share with us things they said as a kid others may not have realized were code for: “I’m anxious.”

Here is what the community had to say:

1. “What’s wrong with me?”

“I didn’t realize I had anxiety and my parents didn’t either. They just thought I was being dramatic when I would burst into tears crying, ‘What is wrong with me?’ I was a chatter box, so my silence was a sign my anxiety was in full swing.” — Kylie L.

2. “I’m tired.”

“When I was a kid, I experience sleep disturbances for a very long time. The whole process of going to school, getting through the day, trying not to be bullied and coming home was always mentally rehearsed the night before. It was around fourth grade that I started seeing the school’s social worker to create plans to self-soothe and keep the anxious thoughts under control, so sleep was one less thing to worry about.” — Julie A.

3. “I have a headache.”

“I used the excuse of feeling ill plenty of times to avoid going to school. I didn’t realize I had anxiety at the time, but everything makes sense when I look back on it now. I wasn’t just being ‘lazy’ back then.“ — Ada T.

“It was easier to explain that something physical was going on as opposed to something that was invisible.” — Joanna L.

4. “I’m sorry.”

“I constantly apologized for things that weren’t really an issue, or I just wouldn’t interact. I still have issues with constantly saying I’m sorry for non-issues and being very quiet in hard situations.” — Teresa R.

5. “Can’t we stay home?”

“I hated going out places because the noise bothered me. Now as an adult, I try to balance things, but it’s still a challenge.” — Elyse B.

6. “You do it.”

“I had such a hard time placing an order for food that I would tell whoever I was with what I wanted and have them place the order.”— Becky B.

7. “Is it time to leave yet?”

“I always said this because crowds of even more then two people would trigger my anxiety. I couldn’t wait till said events or functions were done.” — Shannon C.

8. “Don’t leave me.”

“I was very anxious about being abandoned as a child. I believed people would leave me if I wasn’t good enough, and it would be my fault.” — Jennifer P.

“Whenever my parents would want to leave me, I would beg them not to leave because I was too anxious. Or if they didn’t pick me up at the exact time they said they would from the babysitters, I would call them constantly until they answered.” — Riley S.

9. “I want to go home.”

“I used to tell my dad this every time he would take me to my mother’s and he would get extremely confused.” — Megan G.

10. “Can you turn on the hallway light for me at night?”

“I lived in fear for a few years that someone was going to come into my room and kidnap me. The light didn’t help. I would lie in bed for two hours just waiting. I still don’t sleep well.” — Laura R.

11. “Don’t make me.”

“I’d tell my parents this when I didn’t want to go to school in the morning.” — Josephine C.

12. “My body is uncomfortable.”

“I used to say, ‘My body is uncomfortable, my body is uncomfortable!’ I didn’t know what it was at the time. Years later, I finally figured it out!” — Barb S.

13. “I don’t feel well.”

“Or more specifically, ‘My stomach hurts.’ Even now, my gut and my feelings are still greatly connected.” — Carrie M. 

“My stomach hurts. I remember being sent home several times because I was sick and no one ever knew what was wrong with me. Shortly after I’d get home my stomach pains would cease and I’d be fine. Of course I couldn’t have known on my own that I was just anxious.” — Rebecca R. 

14. “I don’t want to!”

“My 10-year-old has anxiety and he is rarely up for anything new. He digs his heels in and thinks of every excuse in the book to attend a new event, activity, vacation spot, etc.” — Reba S.

What is depression thoughts

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Here are the “depression thoughts” our community shared with us:

1. ‘I can’t wait to go to bed.’

“‘I can’t wait to come home and crawl into bed.’ I haven’t even gotten out of bed when I think that, but it’s always one of my first thoughts of the day.” — Melissa M.

“‘Awake again? Well, at least if I get up for a little bit it means I’m closer to getting to go back to bed.’” — Jackie P.

2. ‘I survived another night.’

“‘I survived the night.’ I then thank the Creator for giving me another day. I deal with depression, but I’m still grateful to be alive.” — Sonya W.

3. ‘I don’t feel like getting out of bed today.’

“‘I don’t feel like getting out of bed today. My body just feels heavy or my shoulders are. I don’t even feel the strength to do what I used to love even when I think about it constantly. I hope to get back that strength again. Did I oversleep, again?’” — Misty Y.

4. ‘I need to take a mental health day.’

“My first thoughts are usually, ‘Time to put in work to keep the sickness and sadness from creeping in’ or ‘I think I need to take a mental health day or I won’t make it to tomorrow.’” — Abe H.

“‘Do I have to go to work? Can’t I just sleep all day? Should I call in today for a mental health day?’” — Rena H.

5. ‘No, not another day.’

“Occasionally I wake up and think, ‘It’s a good day!’ but some days I can’t help my first thought is, ‘No, not daytime,’ then have to convince myself of positive thoughts and get out of bed if I can’t fall back to sleep.” — Kayla L.

6. ‘What’s the point?’

“Most mornings just getting out of bed is a true struggle. I question what the point of it all is. The day seems overwhelming before it starts. It makes me question if my husband and children really need me. If I wasn’t here, would anyone miss me or would I slowly become a forgotten memory?” — Ashley W.

7. ‘Today is a bad day.’

“‘Why do I even have to get out of bed? The choice has been made for me, today is a bad day. If I go back to sleep and wake up, maybe, maybe I’ll have a say in what kind of day I have.’ Depression controls everything.” — Jordan H.

8. ‘Am I going to waste the day?’

“I wake up at 5 a.m. and leave for the office at 5:15. During the journey, my thoughts start messing with my head. I feel like I am going to waste another day of my life. I keep thinking about my past mistakes and I keep getting anxious about what I am going to do at the office. Right now I am at the office and same thoughts are accompanying me everywhere, every time and every day. I don’t know what to do with my life anymore.” — Anuska D.

9. ‘I don’t want to face the day ahead of me.’

“My first thought is ‘I don’t want to face the day ahead.’ With my job you never know what the shift is going to be like. And how much strength you will be required to use that day.” — Emma-Louise J.

10. ‘Do I really have to do it all again?’

“Best time of the day for me is bedtime. Mornings were/are a real struggle. If I had to sum up my first thoughts in the morning it would be, ‘Do I really have to do it all again?’” — Sharon H.

11. ‘Why am I still here?’

“‘Ahh crap, I woke up’ is the most common. ‘I have so much to do, how will I ever manage it all’ and ‘Why am I still here?’ are a few of the thoughts I [have] in the morning.” — Jemma W.

12. ‘How badly do I need my job?’

“‘How badly do I really need my job?’ ‘Can I get away without showering one more day?’ (a lot harder in the summer) ‘Can I stay in bed a little bit longer?’” — Courtney A.

13. ‘I’m so tired.’

“‘Why’d I wake up? I’m so tired. I don’t want to exist anymore.’ Or just the crushing and exhausting feeling as I lay there trying to decide if getting up is worth it. Depression sucks.” — Era K.

14. ‘Will I make another mistake today?’

“‘Another day of being a disappointment. Will my mind be foggy today, again? Will I be able to put a sentence together without stuttering? Will I forget a detail and make a mistake at work again today?’” — Virginia P.

15. ‘Will I be able to act ‘OK?’

“‘How much strength will I have to act ‘OK?”” — Jack M.

“‘I can’t do this. I can’t face the world today. Can I even muster the strength to put my mask on again? I’m tired of living this life and having to pretend I am OK.’” — Scott T.

16. ‘I wish I didn’t wake up.’

“‘I’m disappointed that I woke up.’ Even on days when I’m not feeling suicidal, I’m usually disappointed that I woke up because it means that I have to face the world and everything that comes with it.” — Sam C.

“‘Oh I woke up today? I wish I hadn’t.’ Living with severe depression and borderline personality disorder some days I’m disappointed that I woke up. I’ve been passively suicidal my entire life. I’m not planning anything but if something did happen to me I know I wouldn’t care and I hate feeling that way because I know I’m loved and important and my family would be devastated.” — Alexis D.

17. ‘What ‘mask’ will I wear today?’

“‘How can I face today? Am I going to be able to get through? What mask shall I put on? Will my sedatives help me deal?’” — Nicola F.

18. ‘I’m not strong enough.’

“‘You are not going to make it through another day because you are not strong enough.’” — Charly B.

19. ‘Same battle, different day.’

“There are some mornings when I think to myself, ‘Same battle, different day.’” — Zachary L.

Manage your anxiety

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Here’s what people shared with us:

1. ‘Today is just another day.’

“‘Today is just another day. Nothing more, nothing less. You can get through it because it’s just another day.’ It’s not supportive necessarily, but it’s my mantra every day and it works!” — Emily H.

2. ‘Take it day by day.’

“‘Take it day by day, moment by moment, problem by problem and breath by breath.’” — Tara W.

“‘One day at a time.’ That can even mean one second, one minute, one hour. Live in the now and focus on what’s happening then and there as the next day will have its own anxieties.” — Raechael A.

3. ‘Don’t believe everything your mind is telling you.’

“‘Not everything your mind tells you is true.’” — Janno C.

4. ‘Your feelings are valid.’

“‘Your feelings matter. You matter. Things do get better. Please talk to someone. I am living proof that this helps. Take a baby step towards healing and speak to someone.’” — Tina L.

5. ‘You will be OK.’

“‘Breathe. It will pass and you will be OK.’” — Mandi L.

“‘Everything will be OK. Things may be hard for you right now but you can overcome this and when you do, you will be stronger. Do what makes you feel better when your anxiety spikes. Whether it is listening to music, going fishing or just being by yourself. It’s OK to have time to yourself when you are trying to battle anxiety. It’s not easy, so don’t be hard on yourself. You are strong and you got this!’” — Heather R.

6. ‘You’re not alone.’

“‘You aren’t alone, as much as it might feel like you are.’” — Hayden L.

“‘You are not alone. You are loved.’ Now take a deep breath and repeat.” — Rachel G.

7. ‘Be kind to yourself.’

“‘Don’t be so hard on yourself.’” — Helen V.

8. ‘Allow yourself to feel your emotions.’

“Allow yourself to feel it, don’t try to deny it. Face it, name it, float through it and it ends.” — Jildiz J.

9. ‘Don’t take it out on others.’

“‘Don’t take it out on the ones who love you most.’” — Sergio E.

10. ‘You have overcome all of your tough situations before.’

“I remember something I read in one of my support groups, that the percentage of bad days I have managed to get through is 100%.” — Dina C.

“‘Remember the good times, remember the times you’ve overcome rough situations.’” — Makayla S.

11. ‘Take time for your anxiety.’

“‘Take time for your anxiety. Give yourself dedicated time to address your anxiety and take that time to reason out that you’re going to be OK. Because you are going to be OK.’” — Donna F.

12. ‘This feeling will go away soon.’

“‘As awful as it is now, it will go away. Stop trying to control it, that’s just gonna make it worse. Let it pass, learn to soothe yourself.’” — Alyx P.

“The most powerful thing I remind myself in the middle of my panic attacks is, ‘this is only temporary and will pass.’ This will fade and I will once again be in control. I will allow my body to rid my mind of this stress in this moment.” — Melanie J.

“‘You’re bigger than this moment. This moment, even though seems like it may never end, will pass.’ Also, with general anxiety, it’s an intense feeling, all-consuming even, but it’s ultimately an uncomfortable state of being. It doesn’t have to stop you from functioning and doing your day-to-day tasks. It takes practice and patience with yourself, but it is possible.” — Cassandra E.

13. ‘Having anxiety does not define you.’

“‘You are not less of a person because you have anxiety. Anxiety is a part of you, not all of you.’” — Katie S.

“‘Having anxiety does not define you. Always having these problems due to your anxiety does not define you. You and your actions define you. Nothing else.’” — Tracy W.

“‘The anxiety is not you. Your thoughts are not you. You are you, and you are loved.’” — Laura M.

14. ‘It’s OK not to be OK.’

“‘It’s OK to not be OK.’” — Beth C.

15. ‘You will feel better again.’

“‘Today will eventually come to an end and the anxious feelings will pass, you will feel better again and once you have, remember how you came out on the other side.’” — Noelle R.

16. ‘You are a warrior.’

“‘You’ve survived everything up to this moment. You will survive it again. You are a warrior.’” — Hillary H.

We hope these reminders help you on days you’re struggling to manage your anxiety. It can be a tough road to walk along, but the Mighty community is cheering you on. You’ve got this.

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