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When you shut down your emotions

‘When you shut down emotion, you’re also affecting your immune system, your nervous system.

So the repression of emotion, which is a survival strategy, then becomes a source of physiological illness later on. ‘ -Gabor Mate ⁣

However, it’s not just your long-term health that can suffer if you suppress your negative emotions.

There have been numerous studies showing that when we ignore our emotions, we can experience short-term mental and physical reactions as well.⁣

Suppressing your emotions can lead to physical stress on your body.

What emotion is being suppressed does not matter, the effect is the same. ⁣

When it comes to regulating difficult emotions, there are two ways most people respond: they act out or they suppress.

If you act out with a strong emotion like anger, you will most likely create undesirable consequences in your relationships, your work, and even your play.

The ripple effects of acting out usually provoke more anger around you, which leads to more difficulty.

The consequences of suppressing those big emotions can be even more dangerous. ⁣

What many people aren’t aware of is that there’s another way to regulate our emotions: Feel the feeling in real time. ⁣

On one level, emotions are like energy waves, varying in shape and intensity, just like ocean waves.

Their nature is to arise and pass away pretty quickly, like all natural phenomena.⁣

Ironically, efforts to “talk yourself out of your emotions” often results in “increased rumination and perseveration.”

In other words, you will keep thinking about and holding onto those emotions you’re trying to avoid.⁣

Research into emotional regulation suggests that mindfulness-based interventions can be helpful.

Particularly focus on feeling the emotion and practicing forgiveness, compassion, and kindness at the same time. ⁣

How To Be There For Someone Who Is Having A Mental Health Crisis

Link: here

One of the challenging things about a mental health crisis is that often, even the people that care about you aren’t quite sure how to be there for you. After getting diagnosed with bipolar disorder, I lost a lot of friends during a time when I most needed support from them.

In some cases, the real issue wasn’t a lack of caring — I believe that some people simply didn’t know how to respond to what was happening. That’s perfectly understandable, but I truly wish that more people had at least tried to be there for me. Here are a few of the things that friends did that meant a lot to me, as well as some things I wish more people would have done:

27 Ways to Shift Into Self Love Now

The article:here

Self-love is so essential, and its becoming increasingly important now as we individually and collectively navigate through challenging times.

But what is self-love really?

Self-love is a concept that’s thrown around a lot… But what does it really mean? 

At the very core, self-love is about making an internal commitment to your own mental health, as well as spiritual, and physical well-being.

Self-love is about accepting yourself as you are, but then also taking actions that support your  growth.

Taking the actions that are nurturing and supportive of you, empowers you to accept yourself more. To honor your weaknesses as well as strengths and to begin to have more compassion, and yes love for yourself and who you really are, which is a beautifully unique human being.

Self-love is where you love yourself first, so you can show up in relationships fully and truly be there for, and love others.

An Essential Foundation

Self-love is the foundation required for you to be able to overflow love and be of service in the world, and in the highest interest of all.

Love of self is not being self-centered or narcissistic, rather, its about really getting in touch with yourself. With the things that truly make you feel good, that support your mental health, physical well-being, and your own happiness.

And really, self-love is essential because it is the force of love — true Love — Love with a capital L that opens the doorway for higher Divine Light to fill you.

Love is an essential foundation not only for your own happiness, and your ability to love others, but its also an essential foundation for your spiritual awakening, for you to expand your consciousness, raise your vibration, and truly experience a higher level of light in your life.

How to Practice Self-Love

While self-love is so essential. Practicing it and really embodying it can be challenging at times, and especially in times of challenge.

And yet, when you make a commitment to practice self-love, and to make the time to do the things that are important to you, that help you to feel good, grow, and thrive…

The self-love you cultivate becomes and important and powerful ally, one that supports you in pushing through and moving past limiting beliefs, blockages and personal weaknesses so you can truly align with a life you love, and so that you can truly shine.

Shift Into Self-Love Now

So, let’s dive in…

5 Ways to Feel Self-Love Instantly!

Right here and now can be a powerful new beginning where you recommit to you, to practice loving yourself, and honoring and supporting you! But how do you do this? Let’s start by looking at the 5 biggest things.

1. Make An Internal Commitment

The first way to shift is to recognize the importance of self-love and to then make an internal commitment and intention to love yourself more fully, and exactly as you are.

5 Ways to Instantly Shift Into Self-Love

Setting a self-love intention and really committing to it changes everything.

Have you ever heard that change happens in an instant? It really is so true.

In this moment, if you commit: “I now choose to practice self-love in my life. I now choose to treat myself with self-love, respect and self-care”…

Everything in your life can begin to change to come into alignment with this new intention and truth.

A powerful affirmation to support you in this is: “I now love and approve of myself.”

2. Quiet The Inner Critic

The second key is to become aware of and begin to quiet and dismiss the voice of judgement that is your “inner critic”.

We all have an inner critic at some level. It’s the inner voice that judges the shit out of you. It may tell you-you’re not good enough, that you’re a failure, that you’re worthless, ugly, stupid, etc.

You may hear the inner critic in your own voice, or it may sound like the voice of a parent, sibling, or some other authority figure who once made you feel inferior and made you feel like the truth of you is not enough, and so you put on a mask or tried to hide your light.

Well… As someone who learned to take off the masks and come out of hiding, I’m here today to remind you that who you are, is exactly who you’re meant to be.

And when you take off the masks, and realign with your highest authenticity, bringing your true gifts to the world…

That is exactly what the world needs, and is also what will help to make you feel happy, fulfilled, and to thrive.

As a self-love practice, pay attention to your thoughts. Observe your thoughts. Notice when you’re having thoughts that are out of alignment with the intention you set to love yourself, and to be kind and compassionate towards yourself.

When you do have judgemental or downright mean thoughts about yourself arise, remember that you can choose to dismiss them. You don’t have to buy into them or believe them, and rather you can choose to simply ignore them and let them go.

You can imagine that you’re putting the judgmental thought into a balloon and releasing it into the light… Visualize it floating up and away and then consciously return to love.

  • “I am worthy of self-love”
  • “I love and approve of myself.”

3. Lean Into The Present Moment

The third way to instantly and powerfully shift into a state of self-love is to lean in to present moment, to become fully present in the moment that is now.

Know that regardless of whatever is happening in your life, nothing has to change in the external for you to fully love yourself.

So amidst whatever you’re doing, if you’re washing dishes, if you’re driving to work, give yourself the gift of the present by becoming fully present in the now.

By leaning into the present moment and embrace it. Feeling the sensation of the air around you… The feel of your hands on the steering wheel, or the feel of the warm water on your hands as you’re washing dishes. Feel… See what’s really happening around you, observe and take it all in. Listen and hear the sounds, know … And be fully present, doing what you’re doing.

And then, remember your intention, and choose to cultivate a sense of love now. Remember that in every moment, you are directly connected to the divine love of the infinite, which flows throughout creation, which is underlying every moment, and it’s simply a matter of your leaning into love, tuning into love, and letting love flow through you.

So lean in, open your heart, tune into love and let love circulate through your being.

Remember that it’s love that opens the doorway for the light to fill you. So when you become present, when you consciously choose to embody a state of love, in the present moment, any moment, any activity, whatever you’re doing, can be an opportunity to expand your consciousness, to raise your vibration, to love yourself more, and to shine the truth of your authentic light.

4. Let Go Of What No Longer Serves You

The fourth way to love yourself more is to become aware of how you’re acting out of alignment with love.

What things are you doing… What actions are you taking… What habits do you have that aren’t loving, and aren’t supporting your well-being?

What do you keep doing that’s not assisting you in shining more of your divine truth and authentic light?

When you become aware of the many little things you’re doing that are actually weighing your down… You can then choose to let them go, and replace those things with actions and habits that are good for you, that are rewarding, joyful and in alignment with helping yourself grow into the type of person you’d like to become.

Make time in your schedule for the things that recharge you,that help you to feel good, feel energized, inspired, and that help you to shine your highest light.

What do you need to let go of to do this?

To be able to prioritize fun, play, laughter, inner peace, balance, and harmony?

  • Maybe instead of going to your phone and browsing Facebook first thing in the morning you choose to meditate straight away.
  • Perhaps instead of snacking on chips and candy when you’re feeling low energy in the afternoon, you go for a walk around the block instead.
  • Perhaps instead of downing half a bottle of wine Friday evening because you feel stressed, you choose to check out that relaxing and de-stressing Yoga class, or take a salt bath with a big mug of herbal tea.

These are just a couple of examples. And really, this is so personal.

The key is to gain awareness into your actions and your impulses to action and start choosing to act on those inner impulses that are truly in alignment with your intention to love yourself more.

When you find yourself stuck in old patterns, habits or addictions that are not nurturing for you… Ask your soul for guidance as to how to let these things go, and to find new creative solutions for what will actually support you in loving and nurturing yourself more.

5. Take Action and Create Meaningful Process

A big part of self-love is committing to and getting to work creating, and taking action steps in the direction of what’s meaningful for you… In other words to start taking steps in the direction of your purpose.

You might have a little side project that felt feels meaningful for you, that you feel good about your self when you’re working on it, and yet it seems to get pushed aside. This is unique to you, it could be anything from working on a scrapbook, de-cluttering your home, creating a quilt for your grandchild, taking a course, writing your book, creating a website, offering services, working in the garden, etc…

How are you being called to be of service in the world to be of service to others in a way you love and enjoy?

What would be fulfilling, inspiring and enjoyable to work on? 

Start now!

When you take steps in that direction, following your heart and creating in a way that’s meaningful for you… It feels incredible. When you then keep creating in a way that’s of service in the world, and in the highest interest of all, that is one of the most fulfilling, rewarding and loving things that you can do.

Shift Into Being of Service

If you’re feeling bad about yourself, one of the easiest ways to shift is to take your focus off of yourself and direct it towards being of service to others. How can you help?

This is not to say run yourself thin… Do what you need to do to recharge yourself, but then keep in mind how you may be able to serve and assist others.

This could be as simple as sharing a genuine smile, and as complex as starting a non-profit.

The key is to get in touch with yourself through self-love, and then listen to and act on your inner guidance which allows your highest path to appear.

Oftentimes, when you’re helping others, doing charity work, and taking steps to have a positive influence on the world around you, that is what feels most rewarding.

Return To Self-Love

In an instant… Right now… Make the commitment, observe, and choose to shift into self-love.

Choose to shift into taking action, to be your biggest supporter and encourager, take care of you so that you’re able to shine so bright that you can overflow love out beyond you to make a difference in the world.

Making a difference in the world, being of service to others in a way you love and enjoy that is also in the highest interest of all …That is the true power of self-love. And yes, this is truly possible for you now.

It starts and unfolds one step at a time.

22 Simple Ways to Inspire Self-Love

Here are a few more ideas for little steps you can take, that when added together and compounded equate to really big shifts:

  • Write out on a sheet of paper the strengthens and things about your personality others might admire.
  • Start a personal healthy eating challenge, prioritizing and choosing the types of food and drink that nourish your body and support your well-being.
  • Practice self-love affirmations like: “I accept myself unconditionally”
  • Get creative and express yourself through writing, color, movement or some other way.
  • Listen to a guided meditation and just be.
  • Read a fun or inspiring book.
  • Tune into the things you’re grateful for.
  • Spend time in nature.
  • Prioritize time for fun and play in your schedule.
  • Practice journaling to process your thoughts and emotions.
  • Set boundaries with the people in your life.
  • Forgive yourself for the things you’ve done or left undone in the past.
  • Contemplate what you truly need and value in your life. What is most important to you.
  • Release the need to gain approval from other people.
  • Start an exercise or movement routine.
  • Optimize your sleep! Know how much sleep you need.
  • Practice mindfulness.
  • Make a list of all the things in your life that are working well for you.
  • De-clutter and clean your space.
  • Stop comparing yourself to other people!
  • Stop worrying about what other people think.
  • Study something new that excites and interests you.
  • Work on the projects that are meaningful for you.

Let Self-Love Grow and Blossom From Within You

Choose to shift. Choose to cultivate love. Cultivate your inner light, and let your light shine.

With gratitude and bright blessings,

Melanie Beckler

Two Lessons on Blame from Brené Brown

The article here

Here’s how to tell if you’re a blamer: When something goes wrong, do you immediately want to know whose fault it is or do you make room for empathy and accountability? If you’re guilty of the former, you’re probably a bit of a blamer—But take heart, you’re in good company. In this animation by the Royal Society for the encouragement of Arts, Brené Brown shares a funny story illustrating the magnitude to which she’s a blamer (spoiler: it ends with her getting hung up on by her husband). Brown goes on to share some research and insights into this toxic behavior—Here are two interesting takeaways:

Check this video : https://www.youtube.com/embed/RZWf2_2L2v8?feature=oembed

Two Lessons on Blame

Blame releases discomfort and pain: We often try to fault others for our mistakes because it makes us feel like we’re still in control. “I’d rather it be my fault than no one’s fault,” says Brown. But leaning into the discomfort of mistakes is how we can learn from them. “Here’s what we know from the research,” says Brown, “blame is simply the discharging of discomfort and pain. It has an inverse relationship with accountability. Blaming is a way that we discharge anger.”

Blame is simply the discharging of discomfort and pain.

Blame is faster than accountability:Accountability is a vulnerable process that takes courage and time. “It means me calling you and saying, hey my feelings were really hurt about this, and talking,” says Brown. “People who blame a lot seldom have the tenacity and grit needed to hold people accountable. Blamers spend all of our energy raging for 15 seconds and figuring out whose fault something is,” adds Brown. It’s difficult to maintain relationships when you’re a blamer, because when something goes wrong, we’re too busy making connections as quickly as we can about whose fault it is, instead of slowing down, listening, and leaving enough space for empathy to arise.

Empath’s secrets فضفضة ٤٣

What type/s are you?
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How do you deal with it and protect yourself energetically?

Do you know how?

Here is The most important grounding, connecting, presence and feeling.

At times:
Speaking up
Taking back your power

Burning Sage
Palo Santo

YL oils ♥️ Frankincense lol 😆 (what others?)

The elements
The wind
The sun
The moon
Connecting to your higher self and heart
Sound healing
Energy work
Send it back
Arch Angel Micheal’s vacuum cleaner lol
Time alone
Space clearing
Open the windows
Make noise



It certainly does not happen overnight. It takes practice and commitment but it is attainable.

  • One Month – If you commit to 30 days of practice, you can train yourself to adopt this as part of your daily routine.
  • Every Day – A daily practice helps a habit stick.
  • Make it Simple – The beauty of these Mindful Minutes is that they don’t take a huge amount of time. Change that is incremental is easier to attain.
  • Remind Yourself – Set an alarm on your phone or watch, write it into your day planner, or put it on a sticky note on your computer to remind you to do your practice.
  • Consistency – Try to keep a schedule for your practice by doing it at the same time everyday.
  • Find a buddy – Practice pals can keep each other motivated.
  • Practice Patience & Kindness – We all forget, miss a day or life simply gets in the way. Tomorrow is another day and another opportunity to get back on track.
  • Do it for yourself – Think of it as a well-deserved break not as another thing you have to do.
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